Camming, Introversion, and Finding Real Friends Online
This is also the reason why most of us camgirls end up being close friends with our members - - most members of cam sites also tend to lie on the introversion spectrum, in my experience. For me, at least, camming has been a great way to meet people who are on the same wavelength as me, have the same values, share the same day-to-day lives in some cases.
In many ways, the online world today is one that celebrates an almost pathological level of extroversion. Instagram is a great example - many IG influencers seem to be on a mission to flaunt their social lives as much as possible, to the extent of going to social events (Coachella, anyone?) that they don't care about (how many people want to go to Cannes for the movies?) to document their social-ness for the world to see.
I'm not going to get on my soapbox and talk about how vapid I find these trends, but I will say that in this noisy, noisy social landscape, introverts often struggle to meet and connect with like-minded people. And despite all the stereotypes associated with the world of camgirls and their fans, the fact remains that camming is an excellent 'safe space' for introverted people to meet, hang out, flirt, and connect in a non-judgmental atmosphere.
I am, of course, not talking about the recent breed of marketer-camgirls who spam the social feeds with repetitive automated calls to action and behave more like E-Mail spammers than human beings. There are a lot of them, and hopefully, this trend will be short-lived. Most camgirls I've known and met in this space are, like me, independent, introverted girls. And most members are similarly introverted, often charming once I get to know them, and also independent and self-motivated in that they choose the environments that they feel comfortable in, without worrying about social judgment.
I feel that sense of individualism that comes with being an introvert is an extremely positive trait, and it's unfortunate that in today's media-hungry social landscape, in some ways we are being coerced into being more and more superficially extroverted. In some ways, the COVID-19 lockdowns were a reality check for many social butterflies because we all have to now take stock of our social lives, sift the wheat from the chaff, and figure out who our real friends are.
It's not at all a stretch to say that, in the course of my camming, I've met many people who I consider real friends. The fact that they exist online has never been a barrier because there's no correlation between emotional closeness and physical distance. As we move forward into 2021, and into a more networked, location-independent society, I feel we will see more and more proof of my assertion.
In closing, when I look back on my time camming, years from now, will I feel glad I made real friends throughout it? Without a doubt.